Mine - Taylor Swift

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XPBwXKgDTdE


      In The Song "Mine", Taylor Swift is making an argument about the affect that our relationships with our family have on our self worth as well as our future relationships. Even before the song starts the first scene of the music video is the narrator seeing a couple arguing and flashing back to her own parents arguing showing the experiences that she had as a child. Once  the song starts the narrator talks about how she met a boy. In reference to herself she says "I was a flight risk, afraid of fallin'
Wondering why we bother with love, if it never lasts. This clearly shows that her parents obvious, lt tumultuous relationship has given her a lack of confidence in relationships but also in herself.

The narrator then starts talking about the happy times that her and this boy have together, they go to the beach , she starts staying at his home. She really believes that she has found love and that maybe there is hope in this relationship unlike what she has seen in the past. She says "You made a rebel of a careless man's careful daughter".  She believes that with this guy she can finally be free and really show her true self. She doesn't have to be guarded to potentially protect herself from being hurt. The fact that she mention's her father being carless points to the fact that she blames him for the dissolving of her parents relationship and she has had a difficult relationship with men in the past. However this man makes her so happy she does believe in love. This boy has made her open up. She tells him about her past and why she is so guarded.  He understands why she is so careful and how much she wants to avoid the same relationship that her parents had "You learn my secrets and figure out why I'm guarded. You say we'll never make my parents' mistakes".

However no relationship is perfect and the narrator and her boyfriend do have an argument "And I remember that fight, two-thirty AM". This where the narrator's  true insecurities and hurt from her childhood come out. As soon as the argument happens, she runs out of the house to avoid the conflict just like she did as a little girl when her parents would argue. She also automatically expects her boyfriend to leave like her father always did "Braced myself for the goodbye, cause that's all I've ever known". This expectations of relationships are learned from childhood. These experiences also gave her lesser self-esteem in thinking that her own relationships wouldn't ever work out because she was the problem. She called herself a "flight risk". However unlike her childhood her boyfriend followed her and promised that he would never leave like her and that they would resolve their issues "You said, "I'll never leave you alone". Fortunately they end up living happily and not facing the heartache, that her parents faced. In conclusion the argument of this song is that the things that we experience in childhood especially relationships have a large impact on our expectations and relationships as adults. Therefore because the narrator had a negative experience as a child she expected that as an adult. Luckily she was able to find happiness with someone who accepted all those flaws and insecurities that she gained as a child.